Am I Strict?

Every now and then, I get the question: “Are you strict?”

What you’re really asking (and I know it) is: “Do you spank me? Do you act like a dominatrix?” The short answer: No.

That’s not what I do.

But let’s unpack this, because the question itself is interesting.

Why Do You Want Strictness?

For many of you, “strict” means the fantasy of a governess, the pressure of being told off, or the relief and pleasure of handing control over to someone else. It makes perfect sense to me.

Strictness can be a doorway into not having to hold the reins. You get to feel smaller, to drop the endless weight of decision-making. For some, it’s sexual. For others, it’s the thrill of roleplay.

Either way, the root is often the same: the longing to feel safe enough to let go. And that part, I do understand deeply. Surrender and vulnerability are a constant on my sessions. But not in the way you imagine.

What I Do (and Don’t Do)

You already know I am not a dominatrix service. I don’t operate in the D/s or fetish space. My crib is not in the dungeon and I develop with you in trust and creativity, I listen to you, I am really there, for you, in many ways, sometimes more of what many could imagine possible.

Still, I will never respond to a sudden message that only says “I want a Mommy” or “How much u charge.” That’s not respectful or useful, and I won’t engage. I don't allow that to set the tone of our communication.

I also never session with anyone I haven’t spoken to first, usually over Zoom, where we can talk openly and see if the connection is right. Here’s what else you need to know: I don’t deliver sexual activities or fetish play.

I don’t and won’t change a nappy with anything other than pee.

I don’t tolerate disrespect, manipulation, or attempts to push my boundaries. It won’t work, and it ends things fast.

I don’t hit you. Just as no parent, teacher, or guardian is allowed to hit children in this country ( it’s illegal and social services would remove that child to safety). I won’t use any violence, just my presence.

So… Am I Strict?

Yes. Absolutely! Very strict.

I am strict about respect. I am strict about boundaries. I am strict about safety and care.

And in that way, my strictness is what allows our time together to work.

It creates the container where you can relax, let go, and explore your little side without worry.