How Much Baby Talk You Enjoy? - Baby Talk in ABDL

Some time ago, I posted about baby language in X, and many of you told me that you use it or enjoy it. It makes you feel good. Feeling safe and playful in your little space is important. Allowing yourself to express how you feel is a wonderful thing. Whether it’s through baby babble, giggles, or soft coos, it is completely valid.

When I posted "Do you enjoy baby talk?" I was thinking of you as ABs. However, some of you mentioned the language of the caregivers to you, which is also super valid. I hadn’t thought about that perspective!

So much to say!

What is “baby talk”? How do you use baby talk in ABDL?

Baby talk, sometimes called "babbling language," is the way a baby speaks. It’s also how someone imitates a baby’s speech. This language often comes to mind when you are in a regression headspace.

For example:

• Baba wanna go night-night?

• Wuv my wittle baby soooo much!

  
  

You might want to use made-up words, slurred or soft consonants, and exaggerated cuteness. Many of you love this! It can feel warm and silly, helping you drop into your little space quickly. I’ve heard from some of you that you enjoy when your caregiver speaks to you this way, just like some parents do.

I understand this can be regressive for some, especially if you grew up with caregivers who used "baby language." However, I must admit that I am not particularly fluent or comfortable with it. In fact, I never spoke like that to my own biological children. But that doesn’t mean I can’t see the appeal! I didn’t grow up in this country, so I’m not familiar with the words for baby language here. Even if I could learn them, I find it challenging. You could ask me, but hey... I have another way.

That way is motherese, also known as parentese or infant-directed speech.

This is not baby talk. Instead, it’s a way to talk to a baby or toddler without changing the original words. It uses voice intonation, rhythm of speech, and some exaggerated sounds or expressions to capture the baby’s attention.

If you want to see some examples of this, there are loads on the internet. I’ve selected a couple for you:

Example 1

Example 2

I’m not imitating a baby; I’m speaking to the baby with joy, rhythm, and cuteness. That’s motherese.

In real-life parenting, it actually helps babies develop language, emotional understanding, and connection.

The Creative Side of Baby Talk in ABDL

Needless to say, baby talk in ABDL can be as creative as you want it to be. You have already developed your language skills and might have a preference for how you want to speak and be spoken to. This won’t affect you too much. You may not mind how I speak to you as long as it makes you feel small. In that case, I lean towards motherese, as I feel much more comfortable with it. Being natural also helps both of us!

If your joy and happiness come from me using baby talk, then please share a glossary of what you want to hear! I will hold space for your joy while also letting you know what feels natural to me. As a matter of fact, using some adult words and grammar can add a humorous touch to the situation. For example, I might say:

'If you throw that teddy one more time, I’ll have to report you for attempted defenestration.'

Or the classic:

'You noticed that so quickly. Such impressive perspicacity!'

These phrases can sprinkle some humor gently into our play. Just like this dad does in the fabulous video on "How to talk to a baby."

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Embracing Your Little Space

Creating a safe and nurturing environment is essential for exploring your little side. Embrace the feelings that come with it. Whether you prefer baby talk, motherese, or a mix of both, what matters most is how it makes you feel.

Your little space is a sanctuary. It’s a place where you can let go of adult responsibilities and embrace the joy of being carefree. Remember, it’s okay to express yourself in whatever way feels right for you.

Conclusion: Finding Your Voice

In conclusion, finding your voice in baby talk or motherese can be a delightful journey. It’s about connecting with your inner child and allowing yourself to feel safe and loved. Whether you choose to babble, giggle, or use playful language, each expression is valid.

So, let’s celebrate the joy of communication in our little spaces. Share your thoughts, preferences, and experiences with me. Together, we can create a nurturing environment that fosters happiness and connection.

Remember, you are not alone on this journey. I’m here to support you every step of the way. Let’s explore this wonderful world together!