How Much Baby Talk You Enjoy? - Baby Talk in ABDL

Some time ago, I posted about baby language in X, and many of you told me that you use it or enjoy it, and that it makes you feel good. Feeling safe and playful in your little space and allowing yourself to express the way you feel you need is a good thing, whether it’s in baby babble, giggles, or soft coos, is completely valid.

When I posted "do you enjoy baby talk" I was thinking on you as ABs, but some would reply mentioning the language of the carers to them, which is also super valid and I had not thought about!

So much to say!

What is “baby talk”? How do you use baby talk in ABDL?

Baby talk (sometimes called "babbling language") is the way a baby speaks, and also when someone imitates how a baby speaks, or the language that comes to your when you are into regression headspace.

For example:

Baba wanna go night-night?

Wuv my wittle baby soooo much!

You might want to say made-up words, slurred or soft consonants, and exaggerated cuteness.

Many of you love this. It can feel warm, silly, and make you drop into little space quickly. I heard from some of you that you enjoy that your carer also speaks to you that way, as some parents do.

I understand this can be regressive for some, especially if you grew up having carers who would also use 'baby language'. But at risk of dissapointing those, I have to say that I am not particularly fluent or comfortable that way. Actually, I never spoke like that to my own biological children, but this does not mean that I can't see the appeal of it. I did not grow my first years of life in this country and I really don't know the words for baby language in here, and even if I could learn them, I find it a challenge. You could ask me, but hey... I have another way.

That way is motherese, also called parentese (or infant-directed speech).

This is not baby talk. But a way to talk to a baby or toddler that won't change the original word, but will use voice intonation and the rhythm of speech, and some more exaggerated sounds or expressions, to get the attention of the baby.

If you want to see some examples of this, there are loads in the internet, but I have selected a couple of them for you.

Example 1

Example 2

I’m not imitating a baby, I’m speaking to the baby, with joy, rhythm, and cuteness. That’s motherese.

In real-life parenting it actually helps babies develop language, emotional understanding, and connection.

Needless to say that baby talk in ABDL can be as creative as one wants. You have already developed your language skills, and might have a preference for your way of speaking and to be spoken to, so this is not going to affect you too much. You may not mind the way I speak to you as far as it makes you feel small, and in that case I would say I lean towards motherese as I feel a lot more comfortable with it, and being natural also helps (in this case, both of us!).

If your joy and happiness is that I baby talk you, then please give me a glosary of what you want to hear! ;) I will hold space for your joy but will also let you know what is natural in me. And also, as a matter of something very natural in me and done in practice with some real babies, including adult words and grammar occasionally can give a humorous wink to the situation, and yes, I am every now and then happy to use that with humour, things like

'If you throw that teddy one more time, I’ll have to report you for attempted defenestration.'

or the usual

'You noticed that so quickly. Such impressive perspicacity!'

also go well, sparced gently into the play. Just as this dad does the most fabulous video on "How to talk to a baby".

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