Scammers, Stolen Content, and How to Protect Yourself

The internet is full of wonderful connections—but also full of scams. And over the past month, I’ve been reflecting on just how many people out there try to deceive, impersonate, and take advantage of others.

It hit home recently when someone stole photos of Crinkley and me from our December photoshoot. They posted them with misleading comments, possibly trying to impersonate me or just to call attention for people to go and speak to them. I was worried, not just because of the effort we put into the photoshoot, but also because we would not want anyone scammed, but even less by using our image!

Reporting it on X (Twitter) was frustrating. The platform doesn’t even offer “content theft” as a report option, and honestly, I have no idea if they did anything about it. But what truly made a difference? You. The community.

So many of you called it out, spoke up, and took action. And finally, the larger picture that this person posted disappeared. I believe it was because some bigger accounts stepped in to call it directly. That’s the power of looking out for each other. And for that, I am incredibly grateful.

But not everyone has a community to protect them.

I still see far too many people getting scammed by fake ABDL carers, and honestly? It shouldn’t be that hard to spot them. But I know that when you’re searching with urgency, it’s easy to get caught up in the moment. So let’s talk about how to protect yourself.

How to Spot a Scam ABDL 'Carer'

A real service provider delivers what they promise; a scammer will take your money and disappear. But let’s break it down.

Red Flags to Watch For

Money before any real discussion

If someone asks for money before you’ve even talked about what they offer, be cautious. A legitimate carer will be upfront about their rates and policies.

Urgency and pressure tactics

Scammers love to rush people—“Pay now or I won’t talk to you again!” That’s a huge red flag. Some carers do charge for introductory calls, which is fair, but you should never feel forced into a payment.

Lack of clarity

A real carer will have a clear service description—on a website, a profile, or a listing. If they’re vague, evasive, or won’t answer basic questions, be wary.

Stolen images

Do a reverse image search on their photos. If they’re using stolen pictures from someone else, that’s a clear sign to walk away.

Pushy or evasive communication

A scammer might dodge your questions or push you to act fast. A real professional will give you time to make an informed choice.

The payment methods

A legitimate service provider uses traceable and reputable payment methods. Avoid paying in crypto—it’s nearly impossible to track or recover if something goes wrong.

No cancellation policy or service terms

Always ask about cancellations and policies. A professional will have clear terms; a scammer will avoid the topic altogether.

Lack of community presence

A well-established carer will have some traceable history—whether through a website, social media, forums, or client recommendations. If they seem to have appeared out of nowhere, that’s a reason to be cautious.

References and reviews

If possible, reach out to others who have used their services. A reputable carer will have past clients willing to vouch for them.

How long have they been around?

Look at their online presence. If they just popped up last month, they could be legit—but do some extra digging before sending any money.

Final Thoughts

Scammers exist because people want to believe. They take advantage of trust, desire, and vulnerability. But if you slow down and check for the signs, you can protect yourself. A real professional won’t dodge questions, rush payments, or hide behind stolen images.

And most importantly? We can look out for each other. Just as this community had my back when my content was stolen, we can continue protecting one another by calling out scams, reporting impersonators, and sharing knowledge.

You deserve respect, clarity, and honesty in any exchange.

If this helps even one person avoid a scam, it’s worth it.

Take care.