Humiliation

Yes, you read correctly: I am writing about humiliation, briefly.

This is because every once in a time I am being asked to humiliate someone for wanting to spend time as a baby.

If you are a regular reader of mine, you know that this is not what I deliver. My service is all about care, spending time in that mindset and far from being humiliated, exploring yourself when you are in a mental space of a baby or toddler.

A baby and a small toddler won't feel humiliation because they have not yet developed the sense of self and social awareness to feel that way. Guilt and shame start to happen around the age of three, when children start to show self approval when they succeed at doing something and shame when they don't. It's for use a useful mechanism and it must have been a useful survival mechanism of our ancestors. Shame will make you enforce the norms, and this for our ancestors, in a time where social cohesion was a matter of live or death, when cooperation and adhering to the norms of a group was essential for survival.

But shaming children is a kind of emotional abuse, and it tells them that they are inadequate. Shamed children will grow into adults with shame and insecurities. I understand that consensual shaming for 'fun' is a common practice. However, in my space we explore the feelings that emerge during a session, but I would never intentionally shame anyone. Most AB adults already carry a load of shame, and it is not my intention to make that any bigger in them.

My sessions are a space for growth. I hope this gives you an idea of the work that I deliver, and of course you are welcomed to discuss it with me should you be interested.