Jo's Journey: Embracing Self-Discovery and Nurturing the Little Self In ABDL

Finding Miss Mummy: A Path to Healing

Jo found her way to me two years ago, and she was curious and ready to do the real work. What followed for the next two years was a brave and beautiful journey she fully stepped into. I am proud of what she’s built for herself, and grateful for her trust in me as I walked alongside her through it all.

I discovered Miss Mummy’s world through a Google search shortly after the end of an unhealthy relationship. There was something longing in me, something within me that needed nurturing and care. Yes, there was work within me that needed to be done. In her nurturing way, Miss Mummy was able to work with me.

Creating a Safe Space for Exploration

Through an online space, magic was created. It became a container, a safe haven where I was seen and heard. More importantly, it was a space where my big self could learn how to nurture my little self. I did not want to fall into another relationship where I was longing, in limerence, for someone to mother me. This may seem hard to believe, but no, I don’t want to feel mothered in my romantic relationships. I want to be my partner’s equal. This is what I was learning within myself.

When we never had our needs met by our caregivers as actual children, we may try to find it in other ways. Maybe through unequal friendships, romantic connections, or in my case, teachers and mentors. I believe Miss Mummy has allowed me to find what I was missing without jeopardizing other relationships. More importantly, I was able to take my power back.

Balancing the Little Self

My little self is adorable. She is precious. But she doesn’t rule over everything. Like actual children, they need structure and boundaries in order to thrive. I have learned how to have boundaries with her so that she isn’t taking over my life. This is important for any relationship.

The Power of ABDL Play in Self-Discovery

I remember some of my first sessions with Miss Mummy. What was supposed to be just one session turned into two years of self-exploration and empowerment through both play and emotional support sessions. I take play and exploration quite seriously. Through play, we have been able to explore what causes my little self to be agitated, overstimulated, and upset.

We are able to sit with the feeling and redirect it so as not to sink into it. I feel extremely validated while also gently encouraged to redirect my feelings outward. What this looks like in my adult life: healthier relationships formed, social anxiety eased, and creativity blossoming through hobbies.

Transforming Attachment Styles

I believe my attachment style at the time of beginning to work with Miss Mummy was anxious attachment. Over time, I have been able to move towards a secure attachment through exercises that shift my attention outward, rather than getting lost in my head and my thoughts.

I feel I have come to the conclusion that up until this point of truly working through things using my little space, I don’t think I was an emotionally safe person for others. Now, I feel like I can finally show up for others the way I show up for myself. Maybe it’s because I felt I deserved more care, but now that I do those things for myself, I feel I can also show up for others in ways I couldn’t before.

Embracing Self-Care and Future Possibilities

I learned that I LOVE to give care to myself. I also love thinking about all I could do for my future partner. Not that I wasn’t there for people before, but not with the capacity I have now.

I feel like I am finally not just learning, but actually applying the things I was never taught. I no longer harbor resentment toward those who didn’t teach me.

For the first time, I feel that I am actually living and not just surviving. Nurturing my little self has really brought out a softness in me, as well as self-confidence.

The Journey Continues

I know there is still more to learn and experience, but I am on track to something truly beautiful.

In this journey, I have discovered the importance of nurturing my little self. It’s a gentle reminder that we all deserve care, love, and a safe space to explore our deepest desires. I encourage you to embrace your own journey of self-discovery. Remember, you are not alone.

As I reflect on my growth, I am filled with gratitude for the experiences that have shaped me. I look forward to what lies ahead, knowing that I have the tools to navigate my path with confidence and joy.

Jo