Healing the Inner Child: How Miss Mummy Helped Me Nurture My Little Self

Jo found her way to me two years ago, and she was curious and ready to do the real work. What followed for the next two years was a brave and beautiful journey she fully stepped into. I am proud of what she’s built for herself, and grateful for her trust in me as I walked alongside her through it all.

I discovered Miss Mummy’s world through a google search two years ago. This was shortly after the end of an unhealthy relationship. There was something longing in me, something within me needed nurturing and care, yes, but there was work within me that needed to be done, and in her nurturing way, Miss Mummy was able to work with me.

Through an online space, magic was created. A container, a space where I was seen and

heard. More importantly, a space where my big self could learn how to nurture my little self. I did not want to fall in a relationship again where I was longing, in limerence, for someone to mother me. This may seem hard to believe, but no, I don’t want to feel mothered in my romantic relationships. I want to be my partner’s equal. This is what I was learning within myself.

When we never had our needs met by our caregivers as actual children, we may try to find it in other ways. Maybe through unequal friendships, romantic connections, or in my case, teachers and mentors. I believe Miss Mummy has allowed me to find what I was missing without jeopardizing other relationships. More importantly, I was able to take my power back.

My little self is adorable. She is precious. But, she doesn’t rule over everything. Like actual children, they need structure and boundaries in order to thrive. I have learned how to have boundaries with her so that she isn’t taking over my life. This is important for any relationship.

I remember some of my first sessions with Miss Mummy. What was supposed to be just one session turned into two years of self exploration and empowerment through both play and emotional support sessions. I take play and exploration quite seriously. Through play, we have been able to explore what causes my little self to be agitated, overstimulated and upset.

We are able to sit with the feeling and redirect it so as to not sink into it. I feel extremely validated while also gently encouraged to redirect my feelings outward. What this looks like in my adult life: More healthy relationships formed, social anxiety is more at ease, and creation through hobbies.  

I believe my attachment style at the time of beginning working with Miss Mummy was anxious attachment. Over time, I have been able to move towards a secure attachment through exercises that move attention outward, rather than in my head and my thoughts.

I feel I have come to the conclusion that up until this point of truly working through things using my little space, I don’t think I was an emotionally safe person for others. I feel like now I can finally show up for others the way I show up for myself. Maybe because I felt I deserved more care, but now since I do those things for myself, I feel I can also show up for others in many ways I couldn’t do before.

I learned that I LOVE to give care to myself. And I love thinking about all I could do for my

future partner. Not that I wasn’t there for people before, but not with the capacity I have now.

I feel like I am finally not just learning, but actually applying the things I was never taught, and I no longer have resentment toward those who didn’t teach me.

I feel for the first time, that I am actually living and not just surviving.

Nurturing my little self has really brought out a softness in me, as well as self confidence.

I know there is still more to learn and experience,

but I am on track to something truly beautiful.

Jo